DATE NIGHT QUESTIONS

Remember the gospel in asking and responding to these questions. It Helps US TO ask and respond with intentional grace, HONESTY, HUMILITY, AND SELF-CONTROL). 

Husbands and wives reflect upon the last 7-10 days and ask the following questions of one another:

1. Were there any specific ways I’ve made you feel as though I don’t value you or care about you? 
2. Were there any specific ways I’ve made you feel as though I take you for granted? 
3. Were there any things I’ve done or said that caused you to feel a lack of trust between us? 
4. Were there any moments it seemed like I intentionally passed up the opportunity to serve you, help you, or partner with you?
5. Were there any ways I’ve made you feel belittled, unimportant, or devalued? 
6. Were there any ways I could have loved you more faithfully or pursued you this week that would have encouraged your heart? 
7. Are there any specific things I need to seek your forgiveness for? 

Husbands and wives ask the following questions as they anticipate the upcoming week:

1. Are there any ways I can specifically pray for you?
2. Are there any specific ways I can speak encouragement and love into your heart? Or create some space for you to enjoy the Lord alone? 
3. Are there any ways I can help you experience oneness with Christ? With me? 
4. Are there 2-3 practical ways I can serve you this week? 
5. What’s a creative date night we could share together during quarantine in the next 2-3 weeks that I could begin planning for us? (Both spouses can do this for one another over time)

Be sure to begin and end these conversations by:

* Remembering the gospel and who you are in Christ — speak that over your own heart and mind. 
* Praying together for God’s grace and help to be humble, loving, and honest as you move toward the kind of oneness He desires for you. 
* Taking some time to speak words of encouragement to one another — speak life to each other and don’t just focus on the “misses.”